I am afraid of repeating my mistakes …

Dear Gillian,

I am in the States and too far to come right now and see you, I have ordered your Heartfelt – Affirmations to release the past CD but wondered if you could give me some more advice. I am in the process of letting go of past hurts, relationships, etc. as the fear of repeating my mistakes has caused much heartache these last few weeks - albeit another rejection has caused it as well but I am hoping to keep a positive outlook to help me move on and forge ahead and open my heart more. It is not just me as my female friends are experiencing the same problems.  I also am trying valiantly to not harbour any ill-will or feelings towards someone who I really care about, who needs prayers not anger - huge process indeed.  Thank you.

Dear Monica,

On some level you are attracting these types of people into your life because of deep long held beliefs about men as well as women. It is interesting that your female friends are having similar experiences. You see we attract friends and people into our lives that mirror our beliefs, so it comes as no surprise that those around you feel as you do.

That may all have sounded very negative however, it is quite the opposite. You have reached a point where you want something to change. The only person you can change is yourself, when you make those changes, healthy, loving relationships will flow into your life. You are closer than you know to this experience. You need to start by loving yourself and believing that you deserve love. The way forward is to get back in touch with those negative sub-conscious beliefs, release them and replace them with positive loving thoughts. This will involve reviewing your childhood and the beliefs you have acquired over the years from family and other key individuals. You will also need to release various emotions like anger and hurt that you have experienced and possibly suppressed from “bad” relationships.

If you feel you can do this by yourself then I would start now by affirming to yourself “I am loving and lovable and I deserve all good in my life” and use positive affirmations to support yourself. There are many books including those by Louise Hay to help with the DIY approach and you may want to affirm that “what I need comes to me easily” in assisting the choice. In addition you may want to see a practitioner one to one or go to a workshop to shift things more quickly if necessary.

I know that you deserve a loving, healthy and mutually supportive relationship. When you too know this then you will have exactly that.