“Using the Mirror of Relationship” a relationships meditation by Shakti Gawain author of
Begin by closing your eyes and relaxing for a few moments….bring to mind a
difficult relationship…think about what, exactly, bothers you about this
person. What quality or trait does this person have that makes you feel
uncomfortable or that you judge?
Once you have identified the quality or qualities that bother you, ask
yourself what the positive aspect or essence of that quality might be. For
example, if you see them as lazy, the positive aspect could be the ability to
Ask yourself how it might benefit you to develop a bit more of that quality
in yourself…could it help you find more balance in your life? This
person is a mirror reflecting the disowned quality to you so that you can become
more aware of what you need to develop….as an example if you judge someone as
selfish it is possible that you are too giving.
Remember that you don’t need to become like this person. However, you can use
the discomfort of the relationship to help you discover the essential qualities
you need to develop in order to feel more whole or fulfilled.
Once you have identified what quality this person is reflecting to you
imagine yourself having integrated more of that quality in yourself….
Affirm now that “all my relationships are loving and harmonious…..I easily
recognise patterns of behaviour in me reflected in those around me, and use this
in a positive way for my own healing…..I now have the perfect partner in my
When you are ready bring your attention back to the room, open your eyes,
breathe more deeply and then continue on with your day.