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A quick way to shift those bad feelings

A Quick Way to Shift Those Bad Feelings

From time to time we get caught unawares by people, situations and events that though not drastic still leave us with an uneasy or bad feeling.  Whilst I generally believe in dealing with root causes of any issues I also realise that sometimes we need quick clearing techniques to get us back into balance and feeling better.

For those times here is a technique to try:

Dr Silvia Hartmann the originator of Emotrance believes we have our physical body with all its functions and movements and we have an energy body within which there are natural channels. When all is well energy flows freely through those channels (in, through, and out). When the energy flow is blocked, we experience painful emotions. The aim of the following technique is to help energy flow again by using our intention.

When you have an emotionally charged issue to work with:

  • Locate where you are feeling the energy (or bad feeling) in your body
  • Tell it to soften and flow
  • Get a sense of where it wants to exit your body (up through the head, down through the legs and feet or any number of ways).
  • Allow it to flow and if you catch yourself trying to force it or getting frustrated by it breathe deeply and let go
  • Repeat until you have gone as far as you can.

For lots more techniques with full instructions and guidance come and join us for the Practically Magic One Day Workshop read more about that here.

3 ways to deal with anger

Safe to Look within - AffirmationAnger is one of those emotions that not only makes the individual experiencing it feel very uncomfortable but those who are witness to it also. When someone gets angry it is generally seen as a lack of control as in he/she is losing it; or bad, dangerous and unpredictable. Problems relating to anger typically arise whenever emotions have been suppressed or misdirected. 
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Feeling overwhelmed? 3 ways to deal with it.

Grief UpsetWe all experience challenging times in our lives. Sometimes when bad things happen it can be hard to carry on. There are obvious times when emotional overwhelm can occur like the loss of a loved one, relationship break-up, loss of job or threat of redundancy. These are times when most people can appreciate you may be going through a difficult time. However, there are times when to the outside world things look good, at such times when your inner reality does not match outer appearances the whole situation can seem worse. Continue reading

Did time with my parents at Christmas make me feel this bad?

Before I ask my question I must say since doing your workshop my relationship with my husband is so much better that it’s unrecognisable and so there is no stress there at all anymore which is wonderful- I feel as if we are just getting to really know one another after 30 years and he has been so supportive and understanding- it’s as if we’re two different people- so that part of life is excellent- thank you!  
Am I expecting too much too soon? I have just had a couple of difficult weeks, I spent time with my parents over Christmas- could it be this?  Continue reading

Relationship Action Consultation

Relationships are often a huge problem for people. It doesn’t matter if you are married, single, divorced or widowed, dating, looking for that perfect partner or have no clue how to attract genuine love and avoid heartache.  We all want love in our lives and we all deserve a happy, healthy loving relationship.

In these one to one Relationship Action Consultations Gillian helps people identify negative patterns that can lead to self-sabotage or beliefs that can lead to bad choices.  You will cover the subliminal signals and messages that you give out to others whilst totally unaware and set about changing those so that you can attract a mutually loving, healthy relationship that brings you joy.

Sometimes heartache is overshadowing our lives from a traumatic break up or the death of a loved one.  The sense of loss and grief can be intense and whilst it is a natural part of life experience if it goes on too long then it needs to be dealt with.

As an example:

An amazingly beautiful and successful young woman came to see Gillian, she had been engaged to a man she loved many years before and believed they would be together for ever.  Unfortunately he died and even though many years had passed she still was not dating, felt sad and very alone.  She had stored many of his belongings in boxes in her home and she organised an annual memorial reunion for friends from a sports club he belonged to.

She knew she was stuck but had no idea how to free herself.  Within two sessions she started to consider her future, a couple more and she cleared her house of his stuff passing it to family and friends who would appreciate it rather than having it sit in boxes.  She then decided to make the next reunion a final one (something that other attendees especially family appreciated).

This amazing woman is now a wife and mother.

Has she forgotten her original fiance?  No, he will always have a place in her heart but now she remembers the joy rather than the pain and has a happy family which she is also sure he would have wanted for her.

When you are in a dark place it is hard to imagine it ever getting lighter.  Be reassured it does but if you feel stuck then let us assist you kick-start your healing. Contact Gillian now to find out more or to book your consultation.

We also have a range of Hypnosis downloads available if you want to try something for yourself now.

Grief On Parents Death

Mother Holding Child's Hand

Becoming an Adult Orphan

Grief on a Parents death is always hard but losing the last parent seems to be a slightly different event to the first.  Obviously if you lose both parents as a child you are classed as an “orphan” and treated as such. Everyone can instantly sympathise or realise that this is a traumatic event.  However, when you are older and your parents die, it sounds ridiculous to say “I am an orphan”.  Whilst one parent remains alive you are still a child to someone no matter how old you are and whether or not you have become the carer for that parent.  Also you may find that you finally grieve the loss of your first parent, which may not have seemed possible or just may not have happened whilst the other parent was alive.  This is sometimes caused by throwing yourself into taking care or being concerned about how the other parent is coping rather than experiencing your own sense of loss.

Becoming an adult orphan

Once all parents are gone then you are technically an orphan, your position or role has changed. There is a sense of missed opportunities to spend more time together, have that talk, ask those questions.  There is also inevitably a feeling of future loss – Mum not seeing your children grow up or even seeing them at all, Dad not seeing you succeed in your field of work or get the award.

Guilt

Amongst other feelings and emotions guilt is another one that can be very damaging to your overall health and happiness.  No matter what the circumstances most people feel guilty when someone dies.  It may be that you feel you did not do enough, did not see them as often as you might, left things unsaid or unresolved.   This whole mix can be made very complex if you did not know your parents, felt very antagonistic towards them, in awe or frightened of them.
Moving forward

One of the wonderful things that can happen

At some point is the realisation that you are free and that a whole new world of opportunities can now open up for you.  No matter how wonderful our parents and our childhood, we are still subject to the real or imagined pressure of living the kind of life our parents think we should.  Many people have taken courses, jobs, partners, or other things because they believe it makes their parents happy, meets with approval and their expectations and is “the right thing to do”.  When both parents die you realise just how much you may have relied, been guided or driven by them in your life even down to everyday decisions.  Once they are gone so is the judgement about what you do and you can finally grow up and take your own decisions based totally on what you want and what you think.

When you reach a point where you feel this freedom, use it to motivate you to do all the things that you have always wanted to but felt would not fit with others expectations of you.  I am not suggesting you drop all responsibilities (especially if you have children or dependants) but choose to really LIVE your life.  Get the most from each day, see the good and the joy in your life in the little and the large things.  Do not focus on what is wrong with your life, focus on the good and allow changes to take place in the other areas.  Relax this is your life.

Relationship Affirmations

Relationship Affirmations ListRelationship Affirmations List

“I love and accept myself as I am knowing that by doing this I can love others more fully and they can love me”

“All my relationships are now loving and harmonious”

“I now attract the perfect partner into my life”

“I deserve love and happiness”

“I attract only loving and uplifting people into my life”

“My friends are mutually loving and supportive”

“The past has no power over me, I forgive all those that need my forgiveness and I forgive myself”

“I love and accept myself the way I am and I love and accept others in the same way”

“Everyone I come into contact with appreciates me for the wonderful person that I am”

“I make friends easily wherever I go”

Finding Genuine Love - Hypnosis Download

Getting Over Your EX – Hypnosis Download

Quick Guide to Loving Yourself

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Carers Workshop – Learning to Live & Care

Many people now find themselves in the position of caring for an elderly relative either within their own home or close by. Some are also caring for young children. Whilst care within a family can sound like the ideal provision, the stress and strains placed on the Carer are enormous and can result in various health and emotional problems. Having had personal and professional experience of Caring and Care Givers I have put together a two day workshop and follow up personal counseling session for each participant, details follow below but if you would like more background information and research go to How a Caregivers Immune System is weakened. Continue reading

Problem with forgiveness

Dear Gillian,

I have read the book “You Can Heal Your Life” by Louise Hay and I have been trying many of the things especially the affirmations she suggests to good effect. However, I seem to be having a real problem with forgiveness. Some members of my family have treated me so badly in the past and continue to make my life difficult even now, to forgive them feels impossible, is it really necessary? Continue reading