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3 ways to deal with anger

Safe to Look within - AffirmationAnger is one of those emotions that not only makes the individual experiencing it feel very uncomfortable but those who are witness to it also. When someone gets angry it is generally seen as a lack of control as in he/she is losing it; or bad, dangerous and unpredictable. Problems relating to anger typically arise whenever emotions have been suppressed or misdirected. 
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Did time with my parents at Christmas make me feel this bad?

Before I ask my question I must say since doing your workshop my relationship with my husband is so much better that it’s unrecognisable and so there is no stress there at all anymore which is wonderful- I feel as if we are just getting to really know one another after 30 years and he has been so supportive and understanding- it’s as if we’re two different people- so that part of life is excellent- thank you!  
Am I expecting too much too soon? I have just had a couple of difficult weeks, I spent time with my parents over Christmas- could it be this?  Continue reading

I no longer smoke (having smoked 20-30 per day)………

I have for the first time read some of the things I wrote during the
weekend workshop and realise just how far I have travelled in such a short
space of time……… just a few weeks! compared to the lifetime of
entrenched negative thoughts and feelings that went before.

Rather than running away from affirmation baths I jump in joyously twice
daily. Whereas the mirror work was unbearable I am able to look myself in
the eye and say I love you daily. I no longer smoke (having smoked 20-30 a
day). I feel more independent and self contained, less needy and demanding
of others. Have been going to dance class and expanded my friendships.
Half in jest my children tease me about how I have ‘got a life these
days’. I am tangibly happier to the extent that other people have thought
I must be in love -which is true………… increasingly loving me!  Jacquie

Woman at work making my life difficult

Dear Gillian,

There is a woman at work making my life difficult. She is my line manager, which makes it really difficult to complain as she is the one I would normally go to. I don’t want to go over her head as this could cause more bad feeling. I honestly do not know why she dislikes me so much, but no matter how hard I try or what I do it is never good enough. I feel she is talking to others behind my back and slagging me off. I really feel like resigning. Continue reading

Problem with forgiveness

Dear Gillian,

I have read the book “You Can Heal Your Life” by Louise Hay and I have been trying many of the things especially the affirmations she suggests to good effect. However, I seem to be having a real problem with forgiveness. Some members of my family have treated me so badly in the past and continue to make my life difficult even now, to forgive them feels impossible, is it really necessary? Continue reading

I just do not feel happy …

Dear Gillian,

Having read some of the letters on your site I feel a bit like a “whinger” as my issue does not seem to be anywhere near as bad, but I feel like I am coming to a crisis point and so I thought I would write to you anyway. basically I have a pretty good job, well paid etc. I do not have a relationship at the moment (through choice) as I do not want the hassle of it all. On the face of it I live the kind of life other people think looks great, no real responsibilities, travel, good car etc. However, I do not feel happy. I know it sounds pathetic but I feel empty and I cannot remember a time when I felt happy. I don’t think I am depressed but maybe I am. Continue reading