Tag Archives: letters

Problems Getting on with my Mother In Law …

Dear Gillian,

I am having problems getting on with my mother in law. I know this is going to sound stupid, but my mother in law is becoming too much for me to handle. She really seems to hate me, she never has a good word to say for anyone, especially me. I have not done anything to her. I think she may be jealous of the close relationship I have with my husband.  Continue reading

after an abortion …

Dear Gillian,

This is a hard letter to write but I feel if I do not talk to someone things will get worse. I am ashamed to say that I have had an abortion. As you read this you may feel shocked and hate me for it I know. I feel like I have committed a terrible sin but my circumstances made it seem impossible to go ahead with the pregnancy. Although this has all happened a while ago it stays with me and the guilt and sadness I feel is intense. Continue reading

Why can’t I have a decent guy in my life …

Dear Gillian,

I am so tired of going out with men who are either married, control freaks or just take advantage of me. Are there any good, trustworthy single men out there?  I am an honest, generous person so why is this happening to me? My friends have had similar experiences, so it’s not just me! Why can’t I have a decent guy in my life? Continue reading

When is it going to be my Turn? …

Dear Gillian,

All my life I have worked hard and always paid my way and helped others. I am a single mother and I find life almost intolerable as I care for my elderly mother and two children.  I work part time and find that by the time I have finished work, cooked, cleaned and cared for everyone else there is no time for me. Even if I did have the time I certainly would not have the energy to do anything. I love my family but feel so tired of it all”. When is it going to be my turn? Continue reading

Are subliminal affirmations more effective? …

Dear Gillian,

Are affirmations more powerful when presented directly to the subconscious via subliminal messaging?  Logically this should bypass any immediate conflict with yourself. Also, are affirmations more effective in the 1st person, 2nd person or neutral i.e “exercise is easy and fun”?  Please can you shed some light on this….. Continue reading

Loss, grief, guilt and sadness …

Dear Gillian,

After my mother died I took care of my father for more years than I want to think about.  He was ok initially and then after several strokes he went into a home because he needed full time care, I work and have two children. He just wasn’t “my Dad” anymore and yet I still went through the motions – the visits, the one sided conversations (as he did not seem to respond).  My heart would sink every time I thought about him, his situation or visiting the home, I really wanted it all to end.  He recently died and far from feeling relieved and free I feel guilty and so sad. I don’t know why I am writing to you but just wanted something, maybe reassurance”. Continue reading

I left my husband and two children …

Dear Gillian,

15 months ago I left my husband and two children.  My husband was a workaholic and I worked full time.  My husband discovered he had cancer it scared the life out of me, we moved house to lesson his load with work but nothing changed that was 3 years ago .  My children got older and I realised that my life was going by and I was living the stressful life that my husband lived, he neglected me by coming in late from work etc . Continue reading

So stressed I feel like I have not slept forever …

Dear Gillian,

This may sound pathetic but I am so stressed right now, I feel like I have not slept for ever. I work regular hours but lately I find it a real struggle getting through the day.  I am tired and feel under pressure and stressed almost constantly. I live alone but have a relationship with a nice guy.  Continue reading

I am 50 and feel I have no future …

Dear Gillian,

I stumbled across your website at just the right moment: as you say, the universe sends us what we need! I turned 50 earlier this year and the whole process of looking backwards and realising that I have far more of a past behind me than future in front of me has raised a lot of sadness. I feel I have no future, Continue reading

How do I handle my husbands arguments? …

Dear Gillian,

I am hoping you can answer this question because I am not sure what to do. In all of Louise’s books it mentions that when you get into an argument with either a spouse, friend, or co-worker you should walk out of the room and get away from the situation. Otherwise you are just taking in the argument and you end up getting sick. Well every-time I get into an argument with my husband, (which seems to be pretty much every day), I try to walk out of the room but he consistently follows me or he just continues to yell and yell. How do I handle my husbands arguments? Continue reading