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3 ways to deal with anger

Safe to Look within - AffirmationAnger is one of those emotions that not only makes the individual experiencing it feel very uncomfortable but those who are witness to it also. When someone gets angry it is generally seen as a lack of control as in he/she is losing it; or bad, dangerous and unpredictable. Problems relating to anger typically arise whenever emotions have been suppressed or misdirected. 
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I no longer smoke (having smoked 20-30 per day)………

I have for the first time read some of the things I wrote during the
weekend workshop and realise just how far I have travelled in such a short
space of time……… just a few weeks! compared to the lifetime of
entrenched negative thoughts and feelings that went before.

Rather than running away from affirmation baths I jump in joyously twice
daily. Whereas the mirror work was unbearable I am able to look myself in
the eye and say I love you daily. I no longer smoke (having smoked 20-30 a
day). I feel more independent and self contained, less needy and demanding
of others. Have been going to dance class and expanded my friendships.
Half in jest my children tease me about how I have ‘got a life these
days’. I am tangibly happier to the extent that other people have thought
I must be in love -which is true………… increasingly loving me!  Jacquie

My friend keeps making the same mistakes, she may be an alcoholic …

Dear Gillian,

I have a friend of many years who just keeps making the same mistakes again and again.  I really care about her but I am so tired of getting the late night telephone calls, hearing about what has happened now in her relationship or just how bad everything is.  I quite often end up covering for her.  Continue reading

It’s so unfair what they have done to me especially my Father …

Dear Gillian,

I am 40 years old and when I was a child my mother left and my father took me to live with him and my new step mother.  She abused me mentally and verbally and could be physical. I am particularly hurt by my father who allowed her to treat me badly and just did not seem interested in me.  I have spent a lot of time in therapy dealing with all this. I still contact them but they never offer me any kindness or love.  I was wondering as time goes on with all  this stuff and I begin to like/love myself more and more if you stop wishing for what you never had? Continue reading